We all know that Bhagavan Himself is the foundation of this entire creation, don't we? The same truth is expressed by Swami in the Gita:
mattah parataram nanyat kincidasti dhananjaya |
mayi sarvamidam protam sutre manigana iva ||
“There is nothing whatsoever that exists apart from Me. All this creation is strung upon Me, just as the gems in a necklace are strung upon its thread.”
Thus, although the Supreme Being is the thread that supports this entire necklace called creation, all the gems in this necklace are also mutually dependent upon one another. Ultimately, even the Devas who occupy such exalted positions are dependent upon the havis offered by us in yajnas. In the Bhagavad Gita, through verses such as:
sahayajnah prajah srstva purovaca prajapatih |
anena prasavishyadhvam esa vo'stvistakamadhuk ||
devan bhavayat anena te deva bhavayantu vah |
parasparam bhavayantah sreyah paramavapsyatha ||
istan bhogan hi vo deva dasyante yajñabhavitah |
tair datt an apradayaibhyo yo bhunkte stena eva sah ||
and others, the Supreme Being explains this very principle. When Brahmadeva created the beings, He created the yajnas along with them and told them, “Through these yajnas you shall prosper; they will fulfill all your desires. When you satisfy the Devas through these yajnas, they will bless you with all the prosperity you seek. In this way, being mutually dependent upon one another, attain the highest welfare.”
However, He also tells us to remember one thing: “Enjoy the comforts and blessings bestowed upon you by the Devas by sharing them with others. Otherwise, you will be considered a thief.”
Likewise, in the Mantrapushpam, water is taken as the basis for explaining how the entire creation is mutually dependent. Fire, air, austerity, the moon, the stars, the clouds, and the seasons (the year) all depend upon water, and water in turn depends upon all of them. One who understands this principle of mutual dependence is truly one who has a foundation, it is explained.
Yet some among us fail to understand this and think, “I do not depend upon anyone. I am doing all my work myself, aren't I? Why should I depend upon anyone else?” Some others go a step further and think, “My pockets are full of money. I can simply pay money and get any work done. Therefore, I am not dependent upon anyone.” The Supreme Being describes such arrogance, pride, and status-consciousness born of ignorance as asuri sampada, the demonic qualities, in the Gita.
In truth, it is impossible for any living being in creation to live without depending upon someone else. Can we build our entire house all by ourselves with our own hands, weave our own clothes, grow our own crops, cook them, and eat them? Even if someone learns all these skills, if they have to do everything themselves, a day would not be enough; even an entire lifetime would not be enough. And even if one somehow manages to do all this through tremendous effort, there are numerous raw materials and tools required for all these activities, aren't there? Those too have to be obtained from others.
Yet the human mind does not regard this as dependence upon others. It simply views it as a transaction in which services are obtained by paying money. This gradually leads to arrogance and ultimately destroys even the basic culture of treating one's fellow human being as a human being.
It is certainly good for a person to have self-respect and to possess the principle of aparigraha—not taking anything from anyone unnecessarily. But there is a very fine line between self-respect and ego. It is difficult to recognize that line. A person who possesses genuine self-respect understands that just as he has self-respect, the person standing before him has an equal measure of self-respect. But a person possessed by ego keeps thinking, “I alone should provide for everyone. I alone should support everyone. Everyone should quietly accept whatever I give them. But I should never take anything from anyone. And if I ever have to accept something from someone, I must immediately give them something more valuable in return.”
Our elders, who prescribed various vratas, nomus, and other meritorious religious observances, made arrangements for inviting other members of society as part of these observances and giving them, according to one's capacity, vayanas, tambulams, clothes, and so on. But here, the person giving should, with devotion, regard the person receiving as the very form of the Deity whom he or she had worshipped until that time and make the offering with reverence. Likewise, the person receiving should also accept the offering with devotion, regarding it as prasadam from that Deity.
Instead, if one thinks, “So-and-so gave me a sari worth one thousand rupees at the vrata in their house. If I don't immediately perform another vrata and give them a sari worth fifteen hundred or two thousand rupees, I will become indebted to them. That would be a blemish upon my self-respect,” then where is the devotion there? All that remains is ego and business.
Just as it is natural for children to depend upon their parents when they are young, it is equally natural for those same parents to depend upon their children when they grow old. That too is the law of Nature. But if someone arrogantly thinks, “I have so much property and so much money that, at any age, my parents on one side and my children on the other should depend upon me, and I should never depend upon anyone,” who ultimately suffers because of this?
In reality, it is only in a family where the members depend upon one another that love, affection, happiness, and peace truly flourish. On the other hand, if even one member of the family becomes arrogant and behaves in an obstinate manner, thinking, “I am completely independent. I do not depend upon anyone. I do not consult anyone. I am answerable to no one,” then continuous unrest and turmoil arise in that family, and eventually the family itself falls apart, doesn't it?
If we return once again to our first example of the necklace of gems, suppose the gems were to become arrogant and think, “The thread is our support, so we do not need to depend upon one another,” and consequently moved far away from each other. Would that necklace be beautiful? It is only when the gems are woven closely together, united and harmonious with one another, that the necklace becomes beautiful. Whether it is a necklace of gems or a garland of flowers, its beauty lies in their being closely woven together.
In truth, Bhagavan is not merely the support of all of us. We are all parts of His Virat Sharira, the Cosmic Body. If all the parts of a body depend upon one another and function with mutual cooperation, will that body be healthy? Or if each part becomes arrogant and functions independently, without any connection with the others will that body be healthy? It becomes diseased, doesn't it?
Whenever any two of His disciples developed differences of opinion and came to Sri Gurudev, each blaming the other, Sri Gurudev would tell them precisely this. He would ask, “Suppose my two hands quarrel with each other and come to me seeking a judgment. What am I supposed to do? Whose side should I take?”
Therefore, just as it is absolutely true that Bhagavan is the foundation and support of all of us, it is equally true that we are all mutually dependent upon one another. Once we understand this, ego does not arise within us. Instead, we develop the noble culture of seeing the Paramatma in every living being and treating everyone with respect.
Such good values and noble samskaras should be cultivated from a young age. Once a person grows old, it is not so easy to shed the negative samskaras that have remained attached to us throughout a long lifetime.